【Love Wants Sex Series 313】Establish a close parent-child relationship and accompany children to deal with school bullying

Transcript: Liang Yingxiu

(Kuala Lumpur News) Youth is the purest and most beautiful time for children. However, school bullying incidents often occur, which have a negative impact on children’s growth. How is bullying?

As teachers and parents, we have the responsibility to help children understand what bullying is, and teach them how to protect themselves. Let us say no to bullying together!

6 categories including language sociability

Cai Fuhua, counseling director and sex educator, discusses it in three parts:

First, let’s understand what is bullying? What is bullying?

Second, how to help children face bullying?

Third, what are the methods and strategies to prevent bullying?

“Bullying is Bullying in English, it is also called bullying with ing,

But we often hear bullying now. We used to call it bullying, but now we call it bullying.

Bullying is a long-term, continuous and immediate occurrence,

And it is a psychological, physical or verbal attack on the individual,

And because of the rights between the bully and the victim;

Or his size and other factors are not equal,

Cause the victim to dare not, or be unable to resist effectively.

Therefore, the situation of a bully can be a person or a group, causing him to feel anger, pain, shame, embarrassment, fear, and even depression through physical and mental oppression of the victim.

Moreover, “it” doesn’t have to be all about physical bullying, it also includes verbal or interpersonal bullying! “

She said that bullying can be divided into 6 categories:

The first type is the most common physical bullying, including punching, kicking, slapping, even pushing and tripping, pulling your hair, teasing or spitting on you, etc. This is physical bullying;

The second and most common verbal bullying is slander, cursing, intimidation, threats, etc., such as taking the nickname “four-eyed boy” or “dwarf melon”, speaking foul language, spreading rumors about the victim, gossip, etc. These count.

The third type is interpersonal bullying, that is, social bullying. Squeeze out together, isolate each other, or spread false rumors, etc., especially when in group activities in school, deliberately refuse to be with the victim, or boo when the grades are better, and instigate to ignore someone together; blackmail him , Force people to buy food and ask everyone to eat together;

The fourth type is called sexual bullying. The part of sexual bullying is to make fun of others based on their body, gender, sexual orientation or sexual characteristics. Sexual bullying such as tomboy, she’s Tomboy or she’s lesbian”, “Boba milk tea is here”, “Let’s go see the big watermelon together”.

The fifth type is the counterattack type, which is rare, but he will fight back after being insulted for a long time, or he will bully weaker people;

The sixth type is cyberbullying, that is, using the anonymous features of the Internet to spread rumors, attack others, post indecent photos or short videos, etc.

Childhood enemies grow up to become husband and wife

Cai Fuhua often tells her classmates a story about a buck-toothed boy and a dinosaur girl that happened when she was in middle school.

In other words, this buck-toothed man looks a lot like the “Ya Chasu” in their once-in-a-lifetime movie. He has long buck teeth, and he hates a little fat girl in the class, so that little fat girl was taken away. Nicknamed “Dinosaur Girl”, who took it? It’s that “Yacasu”, because her figure is like an oil barrel!

One day, when the buck-toothed man was teasing Dinosaur Girl, Dinosaur Girl burst out angrily, “All the boys in the world are dead, and I don’t want to marry a boy like you!” Unconvinced, he continued, “The girls all over the world are dead, and I don’t want to marry a stinky woman like you!”

Time flies, and the person telling the story is actually Cai Fuhua’s middle school teacher. He said that one day he met this buck-toothed man in a market and asked him if he was married? The other party was embarrassed to say that they were married, and the one who followed was not the dinosaur girl from back then? This is the so-called happy friends!

Cai Fuhua told this story to her classmates, hoping that they would not speak too early, and the phenomenon of students starting to call themselves nicknames would be slightly less, not completely non-existent, but gradually less Some, are how we can help children cope with bullying.

Encourage children to make positive energy friends

How to help children cope with physical bullying?

“Adults must let their children know that when any unpleasant things happen, please tell dad or mom as soon as possible, let us face it together!”

If a relatively close parent-child relationship can be established at ordinary times, many times the child will tell the parents first. When we often let the child know that the one who hits someone first is a mistake, a big mistake, and usually they will say the same: “He was the one who said it to me first! Can’t he talk back? Or fight?”

Therefore, as a parent, you must take the trouble to say: “It is a big mistake to hit someone first!”

“If you were really angry at that time, please put your hands in your trouser pockets, excuse yourself that I have to go to the toilet or urgent to urinate, turn around and leave the scene, then you can avoid unpleasant things from happening.”

“But sometimes, you will find that when there is a problem, he will go to his own rescuers, not necessarily to his parents. According to our understanding, the most common thing for teenagers to look for is not their parents, but their companions! Therefore, his circle of friends has It’s time to play a very important role.”

She believes that as an adult, you can pay attention to what kind of friends your child is in and whether they are the right people, instead of the crowd who eat melons, that is, the so-called accomplices or bystanders, and encourage children to make friends with good friends and positive energy. Friends, these trustworthy classmates are good friends who may help or give him a hand in the future.